Written by TANTRA-ZAWADI
Oh Beautiful Ones! 2009 is just around the corner!
No more belly aching! I am tired of listening to folks belly ache about how they have been hurt, hood winked, taken advantage of and abandoned in their past. I mean a story here or there helps one get to know another, but you have to know when enough is enough. Sometimes you have to give folks a chance to have an experience or share something that does not center center on your process or your attachment to pain. Eating sorrow for breakfast, regret for lunch, and misery for dinner does not make for an inspiring life.
I know people with serious concerns who never complain or have the desire to “woe is me” or recount the details of their descent into pain. Those with obvious health problems and life challenges like unemployment/homelessness or without spouses or living relatives to care seem to spend more time counting their blessings and being a blessing to others! Looking at the bigger picture (with all due respect for the process), yesterday is gone and there is little that can change what has already occurred. However, we can change how we feel about the past and our outlook toward the future.
For instance, if you don’t like to listen to a particular radio station, you change the dial. If you don’t like a food or beverage, you find an alternative. If someone or something is draining on your energy, you pray before you speak, and limit the time and conversation you share. Why is pain so different? Why must we wear a badge of hurt on our foreheads and utter words into our lives that don’t heal or forgive? Why should we give power to oppression by reliving these experiences daily? Damaging thoughts of pain contaminate new relationships because we are still responding to and living in the past. New relationships don’t stand a chance if we are living like this. After a while, you will become downright unbearable and depressing to be around. Your friends will have moved on and you will wonder why you haven’t grown or done anything different with your life. By this time, your friends will have done everything for you from lending an ear, getting drunk, crying, recommending professional help and praying for and with you. However, nothing seems to fill that gaping hole in your mind.
There comes a point in time when there is nothing more your friends/family can do. There are moments when you will have to tap into your soul and recognize who you are by and for yourself. You may have to change friends or spend time alone in order to do the work. You might have to get silent so God can get through for a change. You have to learn to ensure for yourself you are having loving experiences and to hell with those who don’t understand or dare cast shadows in your light. You have to learn what love is and how to be it, live it, and give it. Who are you? Discover yourself and take responsibility for your happiness.
So, no more belly aching! Get up and fight for your life. This is it . . . this is your life! You can turn it around no matter where you are or where you’ve been. Find positive affirmations to replace insecure thoughts. Rid yourself of negative people that do not nurture your God self. Let them go! Do not be afraid to be alone if you have to. Let your beautiful light shine! Change your diet, your hair style, clothing, your damn mind if you think it will promote your well being. Become the person you've always wanted to be! Discover your balance and how to be a friend to yourself first.
Give life a chance.
Give God a chance to work a miracle. This is good news! You are a survivor baby. Now, act like you know it!
Pass it on!
One Love!
Tantra-zawadi is a performance poet, published author, and an accomplished recording artist. Be on the lookout for her 2009 offering of poetry entitled
Lifewatcher to be published by Chuma Spirit Books, LLC. She can be reached at
jannat70@aol.com, or you can find her on her
myspace page.
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